one check at a time
I went grocery shopping for my mother one day this week and I was completely shocked when I saw an aisle full of Pesach food. Pesach??? Aren’t we still in January?? I was really taken aback-I haven’t really started with Purim preparations yet! Also, my brother is getting married the week after Purim so there’s even more to do-we aren’t even thinking about Pesach yet. But everyone gets excited to start preparing for Purim- there are tons of things to think about! What should our theme be? What should we dress up as? what should we give out for Shalach Manos? It’s a great feeling to walk into stores and see all the candy being displayed. But this is always a crazy time of the year. After all the time and money spent on Purim, the very next day, it becomes all about Pesach. Everyone gets rid of their candy and starts to really focus on the cleaning. It can be very overwhelming!! Many times throughout my life I have been in situations that were very overwhelming. Like when I had to get on the transplant list for lungs. I could only do that once I did all the necessary testing that the hospital required. I couldn’t make any plans because I didn’t know which hospital would accept me and which city that hospital would be in. It was as if the mental lists were growing each day, and I felt like I wouldn’t have enough time to get through them! I was under so much pressure. I knew I had a long list of instructions to help prepare myself if I wanted to stay alive or at least to try-but it was the hardest list-almost everything on there were things beyond my control. So my motto became “Just live one day at a time.” and because of my health, it often became “Just live one hour at a time.” It was way too frightening to think of the life-threatening medical procedures that I would be going through the next day or week. I remember almost everything that happened to me the last few months that I spent in Boston because I was there so often. My doctor had come in one morning and told me that if I wanted to even think about going home to get a break, I would need to get a ton of things done to make sure I would be well enough to make the trip. When he started going down the list of requirements: a surgery to have a feeding tube placed, a new Pic line inserted, a long enough span without fevers, a lower amount of oxygen… and he just kept going on and on. I honestly didn’t think I would ever make it home. How on earth would I be able to endure all of that? It didn’t seem possible. At one point, I wasn’t sure if it would even be worth going through all of it. Sometimes, it’s impossible to think of all the things that have to be done or all the things that you have to get through in the future and stay totally calm. But I knew I had to find a way. I decided to break it down, To get through each thing on its own and then I’d move on to the next one. I created a checklist and decided to try and see how many items I would be able to check off. When I chose to see each one separately, and took it one hour at a time, it became so much easier to handle. Bh, I was able to finish many “checklists” that were given to me, and Thank G-d, I love these new Yom Tov checklists that are being created for me to do. You can’t even compare the different emotions that go along with happy lists vs. terrifying, painful ones and Bh I’m so happy to see the tremendous difference. May all of you have an easy time checking off your Yom Tov lists and don’t worry-just take it one check at a time:)