Happy birthday Alter
One year ago, I made my husband Alter a surprise party. I went all out and made quite a nice celebration and made sure lots of our friends could be there to share in the fun. That was the start of the many festivities we would celebrate in the coming months- our wedding, sheva Brachos followed. The parties represented how amazing it was that we were no longer alone and we now had each other to go through the good times and the bad, the highlights and triumphs of life. But so much has happened since then. We settled into a routine as a married couple.
They say you don’t really know who you marry till you’re married and boy is that true. Over the course of the year, I began to learn so much more about the man I married and got to see how truly amazing Alter is. Last week, I spoke at a seminary in Brooklyn. Alter’s cousin who is a teacher there, got up to introduce me. She began to speak about her cousin who has been through so many challenges and how he was known to be the man in thier family with nine lives. I realized she was talking about Alter. I heard things I didn’t even know had happened to him. She went on to list his many challenges and obstacles he’s endured throughout his life. She said his mother was determined that he would get married despite his ordeal, that she would do whatever she could to make sure he gets to find a wife. Than, I was called up to share my life story. As his birthday is tomorrow, I realize how much more important it is to celebrate another year, especially a year like the one we’ve had, even without the major parties. After I have lived with him and see first hand how he makes the most of every day even though it’s a struggle, it is a bigger reason to celebrate. Every year we are given in this world is a huge gift, but especially when you’re a living miracle. When Alter was born, the doctor told his parents he wouldn’t live very long. But he has proven to them how wrong they are. I thought I had learned what life is about and how to appreciate all life has to offer because of the challenges I have gone through but clearly, I had lots more to learn. Seeing Alter in pain with every step he takes but yet he chooses to walk anyway has taught me to appreciate every step I take.
I’m in awe of how determined he is to get the most out of each day, without complaining, choosing to look at the bigger picture and overlooking the times of suffering. As his wife, its a new concept for me to always be worrying about him as well as myself. I’m so used to being the patient but I have watched Alter go through some difficult times this year, and I’m so glad I could be there for him. I have to say that Alter truly shows what it means to make the most of your year you were given. Thanks for teaching me what it means to push yourself to your limit, to always be positive no matter what and to be patient because nothing lasts forever. I hope this year brings us only happiness, good times, great memories and a complete Refuah shelaimah. Happy birthday and many, many more happy and healthy.