a week of plans and perspectives
The last time I wrote here, I was waiting for my in laws to come from the airport. They booked tickets when we bought our apartment and decided to make a Chanukas Habayis when they come Then, Alter needed to make a Siyum so we decided to make them both on the same night. We rarely get to be at events together so we made a date that worked for them and began to plan our party. Alter was, of course, very excited that his parents were coming and was talking about it for weeks. He had planned a whole itinerary for the 6 days they would be with us- things we would do together and places to take them. He made his transplant check up for the morning after they arrived so his mother could meet his doctor. Well, as we know too well, plans are simply just plans. God sometimes has a whole different agenda then what we write in our calendars. I went to work Tuesday morning and made Alter promise to call me as soon as he was finished at the Doctor. But time was ticking and I started getting a feeling that something was wrong, I knew he usually got out of there quickly and it seemed to be taking too long. My mother in law sent me a text that I should call Alter as soon as I was able to. I started getting a sick feeling in my stomach but had to continue to do my job and entertain the kids that had come to my activity. I tried so hard not to panic and finally, got to call him. He told me one of the most dreaded sentences a transplant patient can hear “I have fever.” The reason this is such a big issue is with a transplant patient, fever means infection, it’s not fever like a regular person getting fever. It’s very serious and you can’t wait around and see what will happen, you must find the source and treat it ASAP. So that meant Alter had to get admitted. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I had so many thoughts and questions swirling around in my head and I had only a few minutes to process everything before the next bunk was going to come in. Getting through that day was torture. I was so upset this was happening, I was scared and I wasn’t allowed to be with him because it’s dangerous for me. That night I lay in bed thinking. How crazy that Alter was so excited to spend time with his parents and had planned so much for this week only to have to spend time with his mother in the hospital. She had basically gone from the plane straight to the hospital. But if I switched my perspective, how amazing is it that she was here in time for this hospitalization? If she wasn’t here, there would be no one to sit with Alter at Columbia! He hadn’t needed to be admitted since his hip surgery and the first day his mother is in NY, he has to be admitted. And as a Dr, my mother in law was able to make sure they were doing what they were supposed to do and was able to give her medical opinion. There definitely was planning going on, just not from a different, much greater source. We definitely saw Hashgacha Pratis. We didn’t know what was going to be, if the Chanukas Habayis was going to happen, how long Alter would have to stay there… Thank God, Alter improved quickly and was able to come home by the end of the week. We were able to make the most of the few days we had with my in-laws. The last night they were with us, we made a beautiful Siyum with family.
Alter got up to speak and said how thankful we are for not only getting us to this point, but for giving him a Refuah shelaimah and allowing this event to happen. Following the Siyum was a beautiful Chanukas Habayis. So many people came to wish us Mazel tov. What a great way to start off in a new home!
Thank God, everything worked out well and it was a really amazing night. I am so, so grateful for everything that happened. Although I would never have asked for Alter to end up with an infection, I’m thankful for the lessons we learned, the perspectives I had to see, for being able to see Yad Hashem in it all and of course, for Alter’s quick recovery. May we be able to share good news and keep making Simchas in our new home!!